See this little girl? She was sexually abused. See that smile? See that innocence?
I was on social media this morning and a picture of a man with the title of pedophile was glaring me in the face. Someone posted it with the caption “Keep a look out for this pedophile.” Under that caption I saw that it had been viewed 4 million times. There were thousands of comments under the picture. I looked through some of them. There were endless, “Just let me get my hands on him,” and ” Wait til I find him and there will be nothing left,” and ” They will put me away for a long time if he ever crosses my path.” As I read through all of these comments one thing kept popping into my head, one thought, “You aren’t going to do anything, because no one does.” It is so easy to share your rage in the community over a picture of a man with the details of him luring a 13 year old into his car , ONLY on Facebook. But how many of those people, if they ran into this man would actually do ANYTHING? I can only speculate, none.
How easy is it to jump on the bandwagon of hate over sexual abuse when you don’t actually have to do anything but type behind your computer screen. I will give you real statistics based on my real life. I wrote publically the details of the abuse that I endured as a child. No one did anything. There was no rage. My father and brother didn’t get together in their car and go confront this man. The hundreds of people who read my story in my little town didn’t get together with their bats and go to his door. Now they may all send emails to each other and post on social media their outrage of sexual abuse but no one did anything. Why? Because words behind a computer screen are words of cowards. The real people fighting for justice don’t need to put idle threats on a Facebook picture. They actually DO something. There has yet to be ONE person who has done or said anything to the man who molested me my entire childhood.
Those who have suffered sexual abuse as children knew there was no one coming with their bat. We knew that the person whether man, woman, or teenager that abusing us would most likely not suffer a day. We knew because as a society no one made it easy for us to come forward. We didn’t have a safe place to tell our secrets. We didn’t have a family, town, group of people, who we knew would rise up in the face of injustice to right this wrong. So we kept these secrets buried. Letting little bits slip out here and there in hopes someone would hear the whispers of our little souls begging to be saved. We wished someone would swoop in and scoop us up and whisk us away into the warm arms of what once was before it all started. If that did not happen, then we were left to bear these scars while barely keeping our heads above water the whole while. Some of us nearly drowned. Then 20 or 30 years later we finally have the stability and love in the worlds we have created ourselves to finally speak our truths. Often these truths fall on deaf ears, or we end up being victimized all over again by their blame and doubt.
So I see these Facebook posts of these outraged random people swearing to kill pedophiles if they get the opportunity to cross their paths. And I laugh at the absurdity of these lies. Every little girl and every little boy who has had someone feel the hands of these pedophiles on them can’t even be HEARD yet somehow we are to believe if our molester is found he will be crucified? NO. The molester gets to keep his family and his life. The child loses everything over and over and over again. Have you read in the paper lately a lynch mob who caught the man who raped one of their daughters and she was vindicated by her father’s rage? Yeah. No. If so it is very rare. Because we rarely speak. When we do, we don’t get what we need, not even broaching the subject of prosecution! Mind you, I am not advocating taking the law into your own hands or promoting violence. I am just pointing out some facts and getting to the point of steering you in the right direction of what you should be doing.
We are in a world now that has a lot of “fighters” behind their screen. We don’t need any more pretenders. No one came when we needed them to. So let’s start by just opening up the dialogue on what is really needed in these situations. Listen to the victim. Support the survivor. Spend energy away from the social media bandwagon and more on the side of those little children who are begging you to listen. While these people are planning a fake attack on Facebook of the pedophile, their own little girl is being molested and they have no idea.
The place they could be making a real difference is right in front of their faces.
Listen. Listen to the children. Let them be heard. Set them free. Give them justice by hearing them and saving them from the nightmare they are stuck in. Then maybe they will find the strength to prosecute the pedophile. They will find the strength to go on living and try to find peace in their hearts again.
Do you see the little girl in the pictures above.
Do you really see her?
Isn’t her life worth being heard? Isn’t her life, heart, childhood, worth EVERYTHING?
She deserved the world to stop for just a moment to hold her in an embrace that for even a moment gave her back the security she never thought she would find again. No child should ever have to endure sexual abuse. But IF they do, those little faces deserve to get those smiles back. They deserve to be loved unconditionally and feel that the world really WILL fight for them.
This is just one face of so many that got truly left behind. She deserved to be fought for. They all do.
She, is me. Only one face of one child who deserved to be fought for.