Giving yourself empathy.

I feel compassion and empathy for others. I always have. My heart genuinely feels joy and pain of others.  I can feel it within my self when someone is hurting or laughing. When someone or something is suffering it pains me. But I have never felt that for myself. Today, I felt empathy for me. I thought about the things I have been through and I felt sad for me, I felt sorry for me, I felt bad for me. I then felt empathy for me. I felt compassion for me. Recovering from abuse has been a conscious choice. It was not a “lets try therapy”. It was a “it’s time to DO THIS”. During this path to healing I have experience rage, anger, defeat, sadness, depression, anxiety, dispondency, and sorrow. I have felt those feelings towards myself. I have felt those feelings towards my abusers. I have felt those feelings towards those who did nothing in the presence of abuse. But I have never felt for myself. To do that I had to accept what had happened to me. I had to accept these things to be real and true and validate them to be able to give myself empathy. 

She gets empathy

She gets empathy

She gets empathy


She gets empathy

She gets empathy

She gets empathy


She gets empathy

She gets empathy

She gets empathy

She gets empathy

She gets empathy 

She gets empathy. 

I can accept that horrible things have been done to me and I have suffered. I have suffered tremendously. It is long past time that I love the wounded parts of me, that I give empathy and love to the wounded parts of me. That I acknowledge myself and what I have survived. Every part of me deserves love. I have a great ability to love others. It is time I apply that same love to myself. ​

21 thoughts on “Giving yourself empathy.

  1. I am a loss of words. I was feeling your empowerment while I read your post and was feeling a big ‘YES’ inside for you….until I saw the last picture. That picture shook me. Can I feel empathy for my child-self? Can I look her in the eye and love her (myself)? These are questions I will have to sit with for a while. I am so very happy that you are finally at that place of having empathy for every age of yourself.

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    • I looked through them myself and when I got to that little girl I hurt the worst for her. It is definitely a process to get here and to really allow myself to feel this. I want that for every part of you too. I know it takes time.

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    • Thank you!
      I remember that day of the pregnancy picture. Id finally bought maternity clothes. I was 6 months pregnant. My best friend was 6 weeks ahead of me. We stood next to each other and compared bellies at her parents house. Her parents have always, and still do love and support me. I love remembering the exact moment a picture was taken.

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  2. This is a wonderful, beautiful, inspirational post. Wow wow wow.

    I am taking a complete break from blogs, until I get my memoir finished. So I almost missed this… very glad I didn’t!!

    I wanted to let you know that I mentioned you in this post, as being an inspiration to me:
    https://ablogabouthealingfromptsd.wordpress.com/2017/01/11/so-i-freaked-out-unfollowed-everybody-made-my-blog-private-had-a-102-fever-and-thought-i-was-dying/

    Wow this post of yours is great.

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    • I feel so honored! Thank you! I don’t know how I missed that as I read all of your posts! Very kind and encouraging of you, thank you!
      And I am so glad you read my this post. And commented this. It really made my day.

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