Allowing yourself to hate. 

thoughts on feelings and boundaries on feelings

NOT MY SECRET...overcoming the shame of sexual abuse

I love this picture because it was the last time I walked around the block with my daughter. We walked to a neighbor’s house to a Halloween party and then took all the kids trick-or-treating. Somewhere along the way I got tired and a neighbor, who I cannot remember, pulled me in the kid’s wagon. Every Halloween after that I used my electric wheelchair. Which to many children’s joy, got to ride in as well when they got tired.

I hate this picture because it was the last time I walked around the block with my daughter. It reminds me of what was and what no longer is.

I have read many “hate” quotes and sayings on social media and elsewhere. “Hate will eat you up. …Hating someone only hurts you, not the other person…Hate can make you sick.” Many people advise that hating will end up hurting you. It…

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3 thoughts on “Allowing yourself to hate. 

  1. I love it. Beautiful. Yes feel the things you feel. Repressing is bad. It’s not healthy. Feeling the feelings you feel whether it’s hate, anger, love, or whatever you feel. Just feel it. I love it. I’m so proud of you and I love you!

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  2. I don’t feel that it is wrong to hate certain things, people who hurt us, the abuse itself, or the unfairness in life. Its how we cope and handle that hate where things can get messy.


    • Yep! I totally agree. I wrote this over a year ago and it is interesting to reflect where I was then and where I am now. I did allow myself to be angry and furious and then I slowly just let it resolve through therapy and just realizing the anger was doing nothing for me. But I did allow myself to be angry because I never had been before.

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