SoCS: His/Hers

In our marriage there are very few things labeled his or hers. There is “ours”. The money…ours. I have never had a paid job in our marriage and my husband has worked every day of it. We’ve been together 22 years. Our anniversary is coming up. The money has never been his. The money is ours. We have no his and hers bank accounts. The car is ours. The house is ours.

We are individuals. We each have our own time, our own interests, our own personalities. Interestingly, our religious, political, spiritual, child raising, acceptance of others…ours. We don’t differ on one thing that I can think of.

I often can be found rummaging through his dresser swiping his long sleeved shirts. All of his hand me downs go straight to me. What was his just becomes mine. It ends up being ours in the end with most things.

We each have our own passion for different interests but support and uplift each other toward those individual goals. They become our goals.

Today I thought about his and hers when we went on our Saturday adventure. My scooter is definitely mine. But he is the one that takes it apart, puts in the car, reassembles it, and today even steer it for me as we went on the gravel road trek. So it makes it kind of his too.

Maybe it isn’t about his and hers but that he is a part of everything I do and I am a part of everything he does. I carry a tiny piece of his love in my heart always. He carries a little piece of my love in his heart always. We work well together to make everything work! He knew tonight my shoulder hurt too badly to make dinner, so he did. When he was mowing the other weekend I knew he’d be hungry and tired, so I made dinner.

To respect each other, and to unconditionally love makes the his and hers unnecessary. I am me. He is him. Material things are ours. And we are so interwound that I would describe his and hers best as just…US.

From adventure today…

*photos taken of me…his 🙂 everything else taken by me

The coolest picture of the day was this series. There was this little green, what looked like lettuce in the water and it was going down what looked like a drain in the middle of a pond. I have no idea what it was. I was squatting down taking pictures when an alligator made a beeline for me. My husband was right there. I stood up and had words with the alligator to BACK OFF. And he stopped his beeline for me. We moved a long after that. The zoom lens in this one is not that zoomed. He was pretty close. We were at the sweetwater wetlands. I will also attach a little sign. It we did the mile loop, or rather, I rode the mile loop and took photos while my husband steered (is that a word?) my scooter. He spots way more things than I do now though. It appears my mindfulness has now also become ours.

I also don’t know why the water looked so blue. I must have accidentally pushed a button on my camera that I will now forever search to find to replicate this cool look!

This writing is part of Linda G Hill Stream of consciousness Saturday

The Friday Reminder and Prompt for #SoCS Feb. 17/18

20 thoughts on “SoCS: His/Hers

    • He was in the water coming fast but he was small. All I did was stand up and he stopped. Maybe he thought I was a bird!!!! Since I was squatting. I was in my chair the rest of the time! I won’t be eaten. I think my husband could wrestle an alligator for me!!! Tons of people were out there. You stay on the path way and I was just squatting so who knows. I really think he thought I was a bird. Because as soon as I stood he stopped. There were soooo many birds. Long legged birds, long necked birds, soft looking feathers. One was small like a small duck but he was black with an orange beak and he yelled the whole time we were there. We did the mile loop. But there is a longer loop but my scooter can’t go down it. It is a great bird place though and it’s nice for sounds too just listening to the variety of birds. It is this vast expanse of land with water and very few trees and tall grass and boardwalks that go across the water and then gravel walk ways through the rest

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    • Ok so what really happened……. I squat down to take a picture of this really cool little green thing that caught my eye. It was swirling in a circle and I was mesmerized.
      Normally when I go out with my husband I don’t drink enough because there is nowhere for me to pee and I cannot hold it. Welllll I drank too much so I did not get dehydrated because I knew it would be warm out.
      Welllll when I squat down to look at the green swirly thing I peed my pants!!!!
      So when the alligator came and I saw all these people around me I thought, “hmm. Everyone will see I peed my pants. But I don’t want the alligator to eat me.” So my husband came up behind me. Confirmed, yep i was soaked. But I stood pee and all and told the alligator to back off and he stopped moving. Then I squat back down with my husband keeping a close eye on things while the other people left and I got a garbage back out of the back of my scooter and put it over the seat and spent the next hour in my pee soaked clothes. Sooooooooo. That’s what happened there. Muscle disease sometimes affects things such as this. Things I never talk about but you know what…why not! It is the full account of my outing so there you have it. My husband did not care one bit. It was obvious my pants were soaked but we still stopped and I took many more pictures and encountered many more people without regard to my pee self. And life went on!

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  1. I love those photos, that alligator both in and out of the water, the birds I am in love. I am also aware of the hard work, time and the dedication involved. I appreciate that so much. Thank you for sharing such amazing photos. I will definately come back for more.

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  2. The gator looks like it came from out of that draining whirlpool thing that you took photos of too. That blue in those shots is so great. That camera is amazing. It must be so much fun to ‘play’ with.

    That must’ve been adrenaline inducing to have it making a bee line right for you. Scary stuff…the life of a wildlife photographer. Whew! Glad you got away.

    I love how the camera zooms in and gets details. The feathers of the ducks (?) swans (?) and the cranes is ridiculous (in a good way.) The hawk pic, wow! It made me stop and really look. His (or her?) feathers match the brown grass in the shot too. It’s a framer. But then they kind of all are. lol.

    The crane, just strolling in the grass, looks like he’s talking to himself too. What a beautiful bird.


    • I LOVED the feathers and how it picked them up. Watching him was really cool. He was stalking something in the water and so he reminded me of a dog pointing. He would stand perfectly still, then lift his foot soooo slowly then spread out his fingers and then grasp the grass as he put it down and then waited a few minutes before picking up the other foot. We never saw what he was going for but it was so cool to watch the water too. It was shallow there and squishy so his feet would sink down. I couldn’t really get a clear shot of any of their eyes. But one he had this blue hair, oh that was the blue heron, and it was really neat how the wind blew like two pieces of it out so you could really see it. That hawk was way cool and blended in so well with the grass. I contemplated having my husband carry me down closer to him..but…there was the alligator situation so I decided against it.
      It was weird that one alligator. It was because I was squatting down and he must have thought I was something to eat. We watched them sneak up on the birds the same way. Just having him look at me and swim fast but boy the minute I stood up and said no he just stopped right there. Wish I could say no to humans like I could the alligator. I mean what is more threatening, alligator or human. You’d think alligator and YET I had no issue telling him to stop. My brain…the mystery continues of it. I have no idea why the camera made the water blue like that around that drain area. It had to have been the sun or I accidently pushed a button. I couldn’t figure it out but I thought those pictures were really neat. For some reason I liked that little green thing going down in the drain better than any other picture.
      The camera really is fun. I have taken some really cool pictures of my daughter with them. I put a few on fb. But she doesn’t want to be on my blog. Yesterday I took her out to visit the horse and the goats and I took some pretty pictures of her. But I have learned I am just not that good with people. I’d much rather take candid pictures of in the moment with nature any day than with a person. Especially since a bee cannot say that they wish I had done this or that. No feedback from a bee or a flower. My neighbor was watching me take pictures and said they won’t ever be perfect because of my tremor. He said when I am on the up close mode, macro mode, that my tremor will slightly blur it unless I have a tripod. But I am not a tripod person. I am a go for a walk and see what catches my eye person.
      I really liked the black bird with the orange nose. He is a hen something or other. Morhen. I can’t remember. Someone told me. He was so loud and his voice echoed all over the entire place and it was miles of trails but we can only do the 1 mile loop because it is packed gravel where as the other loop is just loose rocks.
      Thanks for looking at my stuff! I always love it when you look at the pictures and comment.

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  3. I really enjoy looking at your photos. Even before you got this camera it was obvious you have the eye for photography.

    Yeah, the hawk’s feathers and the brown grass, it’s amazing how they blend in together. That just really captures me.

    It sounds mesmerizing to have watched that blue heron, I have to ask, are you able to take video on that camera? It would be so awesome to watch these animals move about like your describing what the heron was doing. You could (or have your daughter maybe?) upload the videos to your Youtube channel. (I’m subbed you know. 🙂 )


    • It DOES have a video but I have no idea how to use it yet. I need to bring my ipad and just video it that way. It’s how I did the video of the bees the other day. I wonder if wordpress will let me upload that…hmm I need to try.

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  4. Nice post. I do most of the cooking in our duo and I do find it useful to consistently keep my wife’s plate, cup, bowl on the left and mine on the right. That way, I don’t over-salt or over-pepper my food or under-do hers. We each have our own cars but fine to borrow the other one.


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